Hello, Griever.

We are also grieving the death of someone close, too.

We invite you to Death of the Party,

an event series encouraging LGBTQIA+ folks and allies

to creatively explore and express grief in community.

Additionally, we offer funeral ceremony creation,

event management, and end-of-life planning services, ​providing death literacy learning opportunities

for everyone to honor life and grief.

Upcoming Events

Our in-person events are hosted in New York City

Save the Date for events yet ​to be announced!

Saturday, September 21, 2024

Saturday, November 9, 2024

Death of the Party

Events and “Outings” 2024

Interested in collaborating or hosting a grief ​event? Want to share a death education or ​grief inspired event coming up for a ​potential “Outinng”?

Please reach out!


Past Events

Our Pride “Outing​”:

Saturday, June 1, 20​24

Trolley tour of Green-Wood “Gay Gothic - ​Love, Loss, and the Hereafter

Event Passed

Soul Showcase:

Saturday, May 4, 2024

Green-Wood Cemetery

500 25th Street, Brooklyn, NY 11232

In partnership with: Green-Wood &

Brooklyn Community Pride Center

Our Second “Outin​g”:

Tuesday, March 12, 2024​

Book Launch: The Manicurist's Daughter

by​ Susan Lieu​

Event Passed​

Thursday, Feb 22, 2024

6 -​ 8 pm

Sparrow: A Contemporary Funeral Home

159 Driggs Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11222

Tickets - sold out

Our First “Outing”:

Saturday, December 30, 2023

Coming Out to Dead People Comedy Show

by Ricky Sims

Event Passed

Thursday, November 9, 2023

6 - 8 pm

Sparrow: A Contemporary Funeral Home

159 Driggs Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11222

Tickets - sold out

Thursday, June 8, 2023

6 - 8 pm

Bluestockings Cooperative Bookstore

116 Suffolk Street New York, NY 10002

Tickets - sold out

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About Melanie

Creator of Death of the Party ​Funeral & Memorial Celebrant

Proving loneliness wrong when it comes to grieving with ​community. Let’s focus on how we grieve the same rather than ​differently.

I have experienced several significant deaths over the past five ​years. My friend and colleague died in 2018 and my dad died in ​2019. Since losing them, I've sought out friendships with others ​who get grief.

I am a certified Life Cycle® Funeral & Memorial Celebrant, crafting ​personal celebrations of life I am also a host and host trainer for ​The Dinner Party.

Besides talking about death, I enjoy life by volunteering at a thrift ​store, being creative, beekeeping, and traveling. My favorite place ​in NYC is Governor's Island!


In addition to our Death of the Party events, I offer event and end-​of-life planning services in person and virtually.

Life-Cycle Celebrant: As a funeral celebrant (think equivalent of ​“wedding officiant”) I can create any ceremony to honor a unique ​life. From elaborate celebrations of life to intimate gatherings, ​traditional funerals to rituals for disposition, I will walk you through ​the planning and emotional considerations to create a ceremony ​that embodies your wishes and the life of your person. Any venue, ​any idea is not too big or small to commemorate someone special.

Event Manager: With 14 years of creative event planning, I am ​happy to lend my expertise to your event. I have high attention to ​detail, am a quick problem-solver, and enthusiastically look forward ​to crafting your unique event.

End-of-Life Planning: By creating an end-of-life plan you not only ​ease your mind by honoring your life but also preserve a peaceful ​grieving process for loved ones left behind. I can help you walk ​through your path of choices, ensuring that your plan reflects what ​you care about.

Please contact me at DeathofthePartyNYC@gmail.com for ​information about service considerations and costs.

Press & Media

Contact us for Press Inquires

Get Griefy - Issue 2, Q2 2024

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Event Testimonials

Congratulations on a sucessful gathering and thank you for creating this space!


It was great to be around people who understand how you feel and be free to talk about death and grief.


I really enjoyed the recent outing to see a [comedy] show with the group. Grief is not something everyone is comfortable ​talking about, but when you experience a death you sometimes need to talk about it. I enjoyed talking about my ​experience and hearing others' experiences. In this group, we bond at a deep level, while still having fun.


This was a lovely experience- I was so brave, so now I'm proud of myself.


I just wanted to say it was a beautiful event and my walk back home was the most peaceful I have felt

in the past 2 years! Thank you for bringing this experience into the community.


I love this event! Please host again, I will definitely attend.